In response to : "Two tags of the same game"
1.) What is your dream when you were in your childhood?
A rather materialistic view of the world. I wanted Playstations, computers, castles in the sky (rofl) and so on.
2.) Rainy days or sunny days? Why?
Rainy days; because it brings us back to reality on how life really is. It's also a good time for reflection on oneself. (After all, you don't exactly go out during rainy days, no?)
3.) Which do you like the most? Black or White?
Answering white would mean all colors (as it's a mix!). Okay, geekiness aside,
4.) Who would you marry?
As of now I am still undecided; more time is needed because we should know what we want, rather than just marrying anyone who you find suitable at first glance.
5.) Where is the place you would like to go most? Why?
West End, of England. It would be great if I could spend time there with my family, sister, the third one, and perhaps the special person in my life. :-)
6.) What are you afraid of ?
Being unjust to myself in what I do.
7.) When you encounter a sad moment, what would you do?
I talk about it. Or I go into my "cave", for some deep reflections to resolve what I should do next.
8.) What is the one thing you can never get tired of?
Spending time with family and friends. Contrary to the question, can't get enough of that!
9.) If you meet someone that you love, would you confess to him/her? Or just keep the secret in the heart, observing by yourself?
I believe that love is something we have to separate from lust. No doubt I would confess, but I would very much like it to be the right choice, rather than advocating "whirlwind romances". *wink*
10.) Till now, what is the moment that you regret most?
Everytime something happens, we learn from it, and we move on. Because of this, I have no real regrets about how I have lived my life thus far.
11.) What are the requirements that you wish for your other half?
I view independence, empathy and humility as the three most important values I look for in my other half.
12.) Which type of person do you hate most?
Tough question. I don't hate people for the sake of hating them, rather I just refuse to deal with people who are unscrupulous that's all.
13.) Favorite part of a song?
Anything meaningful perhaps :)
14.) Would you rather be someone else at this moment?
Nope! :-)
15.)Do you ever admit it when you're emo?
No doubt about that!
16.) What will you do if the world ends tomorrow?
Stop the world from ending tomorrow?
17.) Who's your favorite cartoon character?
Doraemon lol
18.) TO which extent would you do for the special ones.
Whatever the situation demands of me.
19.) Describe your dream house.
A cozy cottage in the countryside. :-)
20) Does music make you lose control?
No
Friday, 28 March 2008
Thanks for the Messages of Encouragement!
I'd like to thank everyone who took the time to come out and talk to me about what happened recently in my life. Although rather embarrassing to talk about, as it is all about managing time, and stress, I am very glad that I have managed to release my pent up stress that has been accumulating inside for a long while. I'm really happy that I have had friends around me who care for me, and who are willing to take the time to sit down and properly listen to my problems.
Thank you all. I appreciate it. :-)
Thank you all. I appreciate it. :-)
Thursday, 20 March 2008
The Power of Love(ENG HW)
Love is the best antidepressant but many of our ideas about “love” are wrong. The less love you have, the more depressed you are likely to feel. Love is as critical for your mind and body as oxygen. It's not negotiable. In other words, the more connected you are, the healthier you will be in both physically and emotionally. The less connected you are, the more you are at risk.
First and foremost, it is also true that the less love you have, the more depression you are likely to experience in your life. Love is probably the best antidepressant there is because one of the most common sources of depression is feeling unloved. Most depressed people don't love themselves and they do not feel loved by others. They are also very self-focused, making them less attractive to others and depriving them of opportunities to learn the skills of love.
Secondly, there is a mythology in our culture that love just happens. It happens when you are not in attention and you never realize it. As a result, someone who is truly depressed often sits around passively waiting for someone to love them but love doesn't work that way. In addition, to get and keep love, you have to go out and be active and learn a variety of specific skills.
Next, most of us get our ideas of love from popular culture. We come to believe that love is something that sweeps us off our feet but the pop-culture ideal of love consists of unrealistic images created for entertainment, which is one reason so many of us are set up to be depressed. Furthermore, it is part of our national vulnerability, like eating junk food, constantly stimulated by images of instant gratification. We think it is Love at first thought when it’s just merely a distraction or infatuation.
On the other hand, one consequence is that when we hit real love we’ll become upset and disappointed because there are many things that do not fit the cultural ideal. Some of us get demanding and controlling, wanting someone else to do what we think our ideal of romance should be, without realizing our ideal is misplaced. It is not only possible but necessary to change one’s approach to love to ward off depression.
Last but not least, love is a learned skill, not something that comes from hormones or emotion particularly. If you don't learn the skills of love you virtually guarantee that you will be depressed, not only because you will not be connected enough but because you will have many failure experiences. So, learn good communication skills. They are a means by which you develop trust and intensify connection. The more you can communicate the less depressed you will be because you will feel known and understood. Respectively, if you really love someone, you must be able to negotiate and compromise on him/her until you find a common ground that works on both.
On clarification, the range of love is wide and consist a lot of meaningful point but “depression” cannot take exemption when love being brought into discussion. For your information, “depression” being emphasized in this essay because in the world nowadays, depression took a lot of youngster’s bright look, and yes, most on negative perspective which made then unmotivated and unloved.
In conclusions, The “Power of Love” is the power of enjoy life. When you are born, you are crying and everyone around you is smiling. Live your life with full of love so that when you die, you are smiling and everyone around you is crying.
First and foremost, it is also true that the less love you have, the more depression you are likely to experience in your life. Love is probably the best antidepressant there is because one of the most common sources of depression is feeling unloved. Most depressed people don't love themselves and they do not feel loved by others. They are also very self-focused, making them less attractive to others and depriving them of opportunities to learn the skills of love.
Secondly, there is a mythology in our culture that love just happens. It happens when you are not in attention and you never realize it. As a result, someone who is truly depressed often sits around passively waiting for someone to love them but love doesn't work that way. In addition, to get and keep love, you have to go out and be active and learn a variety of specific skills.
Next, most of us get our ideas of love from popular culture. We come to believe that love is something that sweeps us off our feet but the pop-culture ideal of love consists of unrealistic images created for entertainment, which is one reason so many of us are set up to be depressed. Furthermore, it is part of our national vulnerability, like eating junk food, constantly stimulated by images of instant gratification. We think it is Love at first thought when it’s just merely a distraction or infatuation.
On the other hand, one consequence is that when we hit real love we’ll become upset and disappointed because there are many things that do not fit the cultural ideal. Some of us get demanding and controlling, wanting someone else to do what we think our ideal of romance should be, without realizing our ideal is misplaced. It is not only possible but necessary to change one’s approach to love to ward off depression.
Last but not least, love is a learned skill, not something that comes from hormones or emotion particularly. If you don't learn the skills of love you virtually guarantee that you will be depressed, not only because you will not be connected enough but because you will have many failure experiences. So, learn good communication skills. They are a means by which you develop trust and intensify connection. The more you can communicate the less depressed you will be because you will feel known and understood. Respectively, if you really love someone, you must be able to negotiate and compromise on him/her until you find a common ground that works on both.
On clarification, the range of love is wide and consist a lot of meaningful point but “depression” cannot take exemption when love being brought into discussion. For your information, “depression” being emphasized in this essay because in the world nowadays, depression took a lot of youngster’s bright look, and yes, most on negative perspective which made then unmotivated and unloved.
In conclusions, The “Power of Love” is the power of enjoy life. When you are born, you are crying and everyone around you is smiling. Live your life with full of love so that when you die, you are smiling and everyone around you is crying.
Friday, 14 March 2008
EX-SPM-er
All right guys, chill. To who with the good results, I congratulate you. Nicely done. To the one with the not-so-good result, it's ok and at least you've done all that you could. Still, you have all the right to cheer up and celebrate.
Remember, don't be a victim of other people expectation. You, is who you are. SPM don't guarantee you a good manners or a good son/daughter. Beside, who care about SPM?
I tell you a true story, a friend of mine who once at school (he's my senior actually) got 5 F9, barely pass the others and only credit in BM. Guess what? After SPM, he's the first one in who graduated from MFA while the rest of his batch still struggling with degree, and he also the first who's working, as a pilot.
The moral of the story, your destiny won't determine by a piece of paper. You're your own destiny. Good luck.
Remember, don't be a victim of other people expectation. You, is who you are. SPM don't guarantee you a good manners or a good son/daughter. Beside, who care about SPM?
I tell you a true story, a friend of mine who once at school (he's my senior actually) got 5 F9, barely pass the others and only credit in BM. Guess what? After SPM, he's the first one in who graduated from MFA while the rest of his batch still struggling with degree, and he also the first who's working, as a pilot.
The moral of the story, your destiny won't determine by a piece of paper. You're your own destiny. Good luck.
Wednesday, 12 March 2008
Birthday Present for Samy
Politic again!
omg, this is funny, i think i'll do this.
this merely not about sarcasm, just sharing is caring. ^^
omg, this is funny, i think i'll do this.
this merely not about sarcasm, just sharing is caring. ^^
Monday, 10 March 2008
Malaysia Decided
There has been a big change in Malaysia, in her 50th year since independence, as the Opposition finally broke the duck in many states and in Parliament. For the first time in the history of Malaysia there will be a more representative Opposition in Malaysia, similar to that of developed countries (which are notoriously two party, with a strong exception being Britain). At last tally, it seems that Barisan Nasional's 2/3 majority in Parliament has been broken, with the Opposition winning 1 or 2 more seats than needed to deny them the right to change the Constitution of Malaysia. (In other words, the highest law in Malaysia; as we would proudly say "Keluhuran Perlembagaan")
I think that things will get better in the future, after this election. I hope that Pak Lah and his new Cabinet will strive to improve, both in delivering promises he put forth in both his 2004 and 2008 elections, and respecting the views of the many races in Malaysia by allowing fair coverage to everyone (instead of some rather biased reporting towards certain races that we see every now and then). He should be able to now though, I am sure much has been learnt, and that the Administration will be ready to move on...
As for the Opposition and their "trumpeted" aspirations to become the Federal Government, I think they need to hold that off for now, because the people are still judging and suspicious regarding their credibility to rule the country. What we all want to see is how they manage the five states they won.... if they do it well, then who knows... who knows.
Good day, and congrats to all parties who won.
well, i'm just writing from my own perspective and not trying to offense any parties here. Anyway, i'm still merely full with doubtise about politic issues, i believe that i willn't plan to know more as older generation said - Try to evade politic issues if possible.
Regards,
Brandon
I think that things will get better in the future, after this election. I hope that Pak Lah and his new Cabinet will strive to improve, both in delivering promises he put forth in both his 2004 and 2008 elections, and respecting the views of the many races in Malaysia by allowing fair coverage to everyone (instead of some rather biased reporting towards certain races that we see every now and then). He should be able to now though, I am sure much has been learnt, and that the Administration will be ready to move on...
As for the Opposition and their "trumpeted" aspirations to become the Federal Government, I think they need to hold that off for now, because the people are still judging and suspicious regarding their credibility to rule the country. What we all want to see is how they manage the five states they won.... if they do it well, then who knows... who knows.
Good day, and congrats to all parties who won.
well, i'm just writing from my own perspective and not trying to offense any parties here. Anyway, i'm still merely full with doubtise about politic issues, i believe that i willn't plan to know more as older generation said - Try to evade politic issues if possible.
Regards,
Brandon
Sunday, 2 March 2008
Are we looking the right way?
Recently a friend of mine came to talk to me. She was really angry that her boyfriend turned out to be nothing like she expected him to be. It wasn't that he cheated on her, not that he acted behind her back, and certainly not because he didn't spend time with her. Still, "he changed a lot" was what she mentioned. Looking back, it didn't seem like anything changed, rather perhaps her expectation on him grew a little bit too fast. (For example, he usually carries her books; but now is accused of being careless "couldn't care less if it fell on the ground", he used to send her home, but she doesn't like the way he drives so slow and so on).
Now, I don't think there is anything wrong with them, certainly I don't think we should be blaming my friend. I feel it's just a mismatch of personalities.
How so?
What I advised her was to take some time off and really reflect on what she wanted. If that is what she wanted, she should continue. If it wasn't then she shouldn't continue. What I feel is not the right thing to do is impose on others what you want the person to be, because it is easy for a person to shrink up and withdraw when he or she is nagged (then they will resist change). I felt it was better for her to resolve the important matter - which is done by looking at oneself first.
After all, we all make mistakes. And most of our mistakes are made because in our impulse we do something we don't really need to (instead usually its something we "want"). We then justify it so that it looks like we need it. How many times has this been done, when it comes to everyday life? We like a person, so we go out with them, then finally when things don't go the right way, we justify our choice, "no I am quite sure I can change the person to xxx and so on". We become defensive when arguing over what we did was correct. Is this the right thing to do?
My friend believes that the guy should change for the better, and leave his bad habits behind. I don't blame her - many people feel that way too, regardless of gender, race, nationality, etc. This human thinking flaw knows no boundaries. So now we have two contrasting opinions on either side - what do you believe is the better one?
(Obviously I am explaining from my side of things, so the post will look biased, but it's best that one ponders the issue through).
Now, I don't think there is anything wrong with them, certainly I don't think we should be blaming my friend. I feel it's just a mismatch of personalities.
How so?
What I advised her was to take some time off and really reflect on what she wanted. If that is what she wanted, she should continue. If it wasn't then she shouldn't continue. What I feel is not the right thing to do is impose on others what you want the person to be, because it is easy for a person to shrink up and withdraw when he or she is nagged (then they will resist change). I felt it was better for her to resolve the important matter - which is done by looking at oneself first.
After all, we all make mistakes. And most of our mistakes are made because in our impulse we do something we don't really need to (instead usually its something we "want"). We then justify it so that it looks like we need it. How many times has this been done, when it comes to everyday life? We like a person, so we go out with them, then finally when things don't go the right way, we justify our choice, "no I am quite sure I can change the person to xxx and so on". We become defensive when arguing over what we did was correct. Is this the right thing to do?
My friend believes that the guy should change for the better, and leave his bad habits behind. I don't blame her - many people feel that way too, regardless of gender, race, nationality, etc. This human thinking flaw knows no boundaries. So now we have two contrasting opinions on either side - what do you believe is the better one?
(Obviously I am explaining from my side of things, so the post will look biased, but it's best that one ponders the issue through).
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