The Concept of Caves (or why people think guys like to "merajuk")

Over the holidays I've been reading books, though the genre is non-specific, I've literally been reading all sorts of books - mostly because I want to acquire knowledge, plus it's fun to read about things you wouldn't usually read about during normal semester periods. One, that I happened to have picked up and read, details about relationships between men and women. And interestingly enough it gives very striking points about men, and their behavior that I wouldn't have noticed before. It is like how you are taught to observe certain things during certain situations, for example, a traffic light if you're driving, a tennis ball if you are playing, and so on. (After all, the human vision is positionally selective, it only focuses your attention on one spot, or corner.)

The point happens to the cave concept. And it is pretty interesting, and true - men do have this tendency to keep quiet and think about things when they are under stress, or have problems. I do go through this as well - I tend to be more quiet when focusing over problems - e.g. Thermodynamics, money, transport plans (lest I end up in a shopping complex without any transport out). The problem arises when women think that men are being ignorant and uncaring when they go into that silence, and that they would try to "bring them out of the cave" - which usually elicits an undesirable result. Tough huh? Guess you have to be it, to believe it! (Not very convincing, I know.)

Some people, who strangely don't experience this cave thing, or don't realise it's existence tend to label such behavior as merajuk. Now, this can't be further from the truth. From what I understand, merajuk means sulking, and in this case, though the expression could be directly interpretted as such, the meaning may not be that. And this is where the confusion starts. May be a good idea to pick up that book, does shed a lot of light on how relationships work. MSN me for the title :3

Brandon~