In the wrong love

Its not easy, it takes courage, effort, passion, commitment and time. But if you have invested 100% of each of the category end up you fall into a pit of disappointment, then i tell you what, i feel you. Rather this post is not to express any of my dissatisfaction towards what am i pursuing, i am confused.

I reckon every single bad or cheapskate guy was made this way, they were once a generous gentleman i suppose? Perhaps i should just drop myself a question, should i turn myself into one bad stuff or playboy or whatever.

Nice guy usually loses the girl for being exactly who he is, and in fact girl who hasn't want to settle down always meet these nice guys at the wrong time. And the worse thing is the "nice" of him is to the extend of he has nothing to say after losing her. He will accept it as she truly wants and bless her with her type of guys she met not long ago. My past experience, my ex got herself a new bf right after breaking up with me, the fragileness of 2 years relationship was totally replaced by a person who she just met for weeks. The grudges were there and it took time to make myself clear that i wasn't good enough for her and finally forgiven after 4 years. Im blessing her thou. People come and go, the worth one stays, anything happens for a reason and i believe she got herself in a better situation for the best reason. And some people should get a punch from me, and when i punch you, i have my reason. And "some people" have been quite ridiculous recently, endless drama and funny ending - i trembled.

I always remind myself to not greed, i always remind myself of "Dog and Bone story", you cant carry 2 bones at the same time, you have to let go one. In usual manner, maybe its because of the current social life and people i am mingling right now, maybe its you, who would keep the second bone and spend time with the first. Semantically, the nice guy believes in doing the right thing, being the second bone and wait for no return.

I was once a clubber and a guy who spent all my weekend and money in club, and time passed and i have reached to the highest level which is to eventually settle down, but i met the right person at the wrong time, this is the ultimate problem, the one you like likes another person, such a headache. The question is why and the answer can be as simple as you aren't her type that shes looking for. Yes people would just save time and energy because good guy isnt going to make it easy to just walk away, you have to hurt him with words because the good guy cares. You have to tell him you had a night stand with another guy, so the good guy will just kill himself and he will be gone for sure. Again the good guy cares, even though he knows it will be loads of bullshit, he will get his explanation and deal with the rest of his whatever-is-going-to-happen.

I have friend who had a nice guy who treated her very well too, but the girl prefer asshole. She thinks a douchebag is a challenge. Crap. But in fact, the asshole has a charm about him, you would say "theres something about him" because he socialized too well in the night club.

So trust me, you pushed the nice guy away, the nice guy would walk away. When he doesnt, you pushed harder. Each time he comes back, he comes back with a different idea, and that makes you look attracting and he cares about everything that you need and get for you, and that increase your value and thats the moment when you, the girl starts growing. He forced you to grow and you were too busy chasing them off. The nice guy offered endless journey with you and you pushed a "think-too-much" guy far far away and 10 years later, when you marry a douchebag, you complain your husband never think and plan for the future. Funny shit. He gave too much of everything you need that's when you start taking things for granted, you wanted conflict and drama in life and end up complaining theres no nice guy in the world, funny shit x2.

He was the guy you were supposed to be together with, the person who will make things happen for you for the best reason, wishing you to see before other does. Still you think he doesnt suit you, ok fine, hurt him, he will walk away, he called it a day, he said "FML". And the point is what you don't know is that theres someone else out there is waiting for this, she wont waste a minute, she saw how great she treated you and when you realize, its going to be too late.

Pessimists?

Let's talk about all of you for a moment.

Let's assume someone had a really good life. A nice wife, a wholesome family and a steady job. Then one day on the way to work he reversed into his wife, the car exploded but he got out alive, his kids were killed in the explosion, and he got fired for being late at a very important presentation all because of one very unfortunate accident. Would you say he's unlucky?

A lot of you would say yes, and my conclusion is, you're all a bunch of pessimists. Yes, I said it. Straight from the mouth of a person on trial for being a pessimist or a realist. Let me explain myself.

You're all going to hate me for how simple my answer is but this sort of thinking has applied very well for me in the recent days. The man was lucky enough to have a good life to begin with. So all you people who are out there whining about what a good life they used to have but threw it away with a stupid mistake or something, just shut the hell up. It is better to have love and lost than to have never loved at all; a statement I find rather true, as opposed to all the Disney tales and shit I have shockingly found to be untrue over the years. It's time to just sit back and appreciate that you had something in the first place instead of wallowing in self-pity about how crappy life is now.

I swear if I hear another person whining about what could have been I'll hang them

and 

i swear this is damn cute. Haha

The television

Merely, I am aimless, motiveless and emotionless, not to mention the soreness in the inner feeling at the sight of the broken TV. I just feel like staying in an incomplete house. I used to have a lot of guests and visitors in my house, and I’m proud to have them in, they are more than welcomed and I love my house when it's full of people. But people don’t come to visit and sit in your room, your living room or your kitchen. Statistic shows 99% of house’s visitors sit in the living room and a living room needs to have TV. I’m a homie fella who definitely loves a TV, TV represents a complete house. I remember the first day I shifted in here; I told myself that this house needs a TV, so I need a TV. Also, I remember I was constantly being reminded by my parents that I don’t watch TV often, yet I insisted, so yes bought, and now broken. So no TV = no Guest = Sad. So everything is clear now when lining everything up. That’s why I love blogging. I used to blog back to 2008, guess I will keep everything posted? I hope I do. Have a nice day.

Inefficient MidValley-The Garden security management and the police

This post is not about how was my Macbook was stolen. It was stolen due to my mistake but there are some issues that I must point out regarding how inefficient was the Garden security and how did my case was handled by the polices.

So a little bit of short introduction, I am a regular customer of The Garden - 5 days in a week, I do always hang out at Starbucks, regular customers would probably know and recognise me, not to mention the staffs/workers, for me they are my friends. So being there, I do feel secured and I do not bother to leave my belongings unattended because they are watching it for me. Maybe irregular customer do not know, for your information, if you do realize, security cameras are all over the places and floors, are around almost all corners, evaluator and escalator, even in parking P1 - P4, you can see guards in every junctions and corners. It seems highly security measured but what if the security cameras (CCTV) are just being there without being utilized when needed?

No, I do not blame the security system for my belongings being taken, it was my fault;

It was 11.30pm when I was about to leave Garden, So I headed to Garden parking P1 to pay for the ticket. It was RM10 and I have 10 pieces of RM1, and I have no hands to pay for the tickets due to my left hand was carrying my laptop and files, and right hand was holding my wallet, so what did I do, I put everything on top the machine to have the payment done and I left. It took me 5 minutes to realize that I have totally forgotten about my stuffs, so I went back and It has already gone. I was nervous until I see there is a CCTV behind the ticket machines where it records people standing in front of the machines and there is navigator in the middle. So since there was no guard around so I called the number stated on the ticket machine and reported my location and I have requested to check on CCTV 10 minutes ago on who has taken my stuffs. The lady in the phone replied;

"couple behind you took your stuffs, they took once you left",
 so I asked again, "Did you see their face?",
 and she said "Yes, they are chinese",
then I asked again "Is the image clear? can I have the video clip",
and she said "Yes, clear image but no, you have to do report tomorrow and let the police take care of it" 

So what I thought was, its alright, I can deal with the police later on. So the next morning I went to - Pondok Polis Mid Valley to make my report. The police lady wasn't polite to me, I know her name, but I'm not going to reveal it, there's a minimum wage system is implementing, she needs the job and we talked and yes she did blame on my carelessness in the first place. Yes I was careless and I regretted but this was not the reason I came to report,

"I just wanted to find that couple who have taken it", and
she asked me back "HOW?" and "Kenapa you tertinggal you punya barang? Kalau saya nampak, saya polis, saya ambik jugak", 

and that statement have made my day, I know Malaysia's polices are like this, so I wasn't surprise,  I was expecting a better, polite, formal and ready-to-help attitude in a place like The Garden but I was like talking to a police in Petaling Street. All my mind was thinking, here is Mid-Valley, The Garden, not mamak, I'm not a Rempit losing a helmet, I'm a businessperson losing my business stuffs.
She has to learn how to speak to her customer and ready to serve. And she made a phone call and connected to Sergeant Santor Singh and that guy asked me to meet him at Police Station Brickfield in Jalan Klang Lama. So I did..

Its a weird police station, no main entrance but anyway, I stepped into the police station and looked for him. So he asked me to wait and I have waited for half an hour and finally he asked me to go in. This is better, at least this guy can speak English in the right manner but again,

"I just want to find the person who took my stuffs",
he asked me back "HOW?",
then I said "check on the CCTV",
and he said "Even can see their face in CCTV, they might have already gone and hard to find"

I wonder do they even have a system. They then connected the line to Mid Valley and asked for the video clip, and what's most surprising was the person in the phone said

"the boy(me) put his laptop on top of machine then left ady but cannot see who take it" 

You can see I put my stuffs on top but you cannot see who taken it? On top of that, what the lady said yesterday was totally different from what did you just said. So you lied? You lied at the part you said you cannot see who took it, you have a CCTV facing the machine, so what is wrong with your CCTV? Are you telling me your CCTV is facing the ground? or you are trying to get rid of police case? That 2 machines are the only machines containing cash, so where's your CCTV is facing?

A CCTV installed facing towards 2 machines

Did you mean "you can do any crime at that machine area and no one would know?"

In P1 hall, there are only 3 exits. One go down to P2 and another one go up to LG and one straight to carpark area. I just assume that your machine CCTV cannot see their face in the hall, but the lady yesterday told me couple wearing white took it, the reason the couple were there with me was to pay their ticket and their car was parked on the same floor, or maybe lower floor,


so its either they headed to P2 and this is P2,

A CCTV right in the middle facing the escalator

or maybe they have gone to LG, and this is LG,

A CCTV right in the middle facing the escalator

If these 2 cameras cant see their face, then did you mean "you can do any crime at that machine area and run to P2 or LG to hide? .

or maybe worst case scenario,
they might have gone out to carpark and drove away but what is this for?

A CCTV facing two exit gates

Did you mean "you can use a knife and cut off my head and drive away like normal?" and you tell ppl "the boy is killed, but cannot see how he was killed and who killed him?" Even if you cant see their face, at least you can get the car plate number.

Back to Sergeant Santor, he then said "Nvm, bring me the video clip and he hung up the phone" and he was not taking this seriously, he was just making my report and that is it. I see no intention from his team to help me out. They just said, they will call me and today is the third day.

I have no idea why is it so hard to find the couple. It 11.30pm and only few people and cars were left, so how difficult it can be? You just have to grab video clips between time "11.25 - 11.40pm" from the CCTVs at the LG, P2 and 3 clips from all 3 exit gates from Garden Carpark. All you have to do is just recognize the clothes in the car and recognize the car plate number. Even my dad can just key in the car number to know the owner's name and address, don't tell me you police can not do better. Yes, you might tell me there might have more couples wearing white, don be silly, we learn probability in Mathematics and its 11.30pm, how more it can be?


My comments toward:

Police, yes this might be a small case but its sad to know this is an unsolvable case for you, means its either you are not taking effort in handling my case, or you are not intelligent enough. The difference between me and you is not between degree holder and a spm holder, its just I took effort to think and you just do things to wait for your monthly salary.

MV-Garden security management, I'm truly disappointed on how you have misguided me and the polices, you can't give precise information to help the customer. You are just being sorry for my lost. You tell lies to get rid of troubles and delays. You are just telling people out there, the security in Mid Valley is just seem to be nice, the camera is there for the sake of being there.

Yes we do have to take care of our own belongings, but if any unpleasant incidents happen, camera would be the witness of the whole proccess to aid the police to investigate, at least there is a clue. Sometimes our belongings just lost/stolen due to our carelessness and lack of awareness, and it was always being regretted, but it does not mean the regretted one does not want their things back, if it happens under surveillance, and the security fail to provide any information to help, then what does security system is implemented for?


Regards.

Arguments and Debates

Thank you for helping me notice.

I know what it is now. Why do I keep arguing no matter how groundless some comments are? Why is it I can think "Wow this guy is an idiot for saying this," but still, talk and try to convince that person why I feel he/she is wrong? Most importantly, as a personal question, why do I get riled up by the stupidest comments?!

Because, I've come to notice, I believe it's a chess game.

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1. The right to dismiss - Just because a person made the most ridiculous move on the chessboard does not give me the right to say "hah you're an idiot, I don't want to waste time playing with you". This is the equivalent of "this is a pointless discussion because you're an idiot, I'm not talking about this anymore" in an argument.

2. The game is between the two people playing - If 99.99% of the world agree that there is a particular piece you should be moving but you think otherwise, it's probably better for your game if you followed what you believe, the equivalent of how what others think do not directly affect the people in the argument.

3. Don't bring your personal feelings / emotion in the game - Your emotions have nothing to do with how well your pieces are played. Neither does it have anything to do with how well you argue or debate an issue. Be especially sure to take note of this in an argument between friends.

4. Stay focused to the purpose - You have certain small goals throughout a chess game, for instance exposing your opponent's King, or forcing trades when you have an advantage over them in terms of quantity; but your ultimate purpose to win is always there. Just as you will have different purposes of arguing or debating, stay focused and never sidetrack. The ultimate purpose of arguing or debating is also always there, but it may not always be to win. Whatever it is, just relate each statement you make throughout the course of your argument/debate to this question: "Would making this statement help me achieve that purpose?"

5. The endgame - Incoming cliche - The real winner at the end of the day is one who understands and works on fixing his flaws, not the winner of the actual game. You may have played the same strategy for every chess game (equivalent of having a certain stand on something your whole life) but it is never too late to alter or change your strategies (equivalent of changing your mind regarding an issue).

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This used to bother me ALL the damn time since like x years ago. I couldn't help but to argue with people even though (or especially when) I think they're bringing up bad arguments. I envied people (especially my brother) who were able to just dismiss silly comments. But I see being like this has its benefits too.

Seriously, thanks for helping me answer the question. There's this satisfaction in me, both for discovering it and for being able to write about it. And I really haven't written anything particularly Brandon-ish for a really long time, until now. Ahh, welcome back, me.