Its not easy, it takes courage, effort, passion, commitment and time. But if you have invested 100% of each of the category end up you fall into a pit of disappointment, then i tell you what, i feel you. Rather this post is not to express any of my dissatisfaction towards what am i pursuing, i am confused.
I reckon every single bad or cheapskate guy was made this way, they were once a generous gentleman i suppose? Perhaps i should just drop myself a question, should i turn myself into one bad stuff or playboy or whatever.
Nice guy usually loses the girl for being exactly who he is, and in fact girl who hasn't want to settle down always meet these nice guys at the wrong time. And the worse thing is the "nice" of him is to the extend of he has nothing to say after losing her. He will accept it as she truly wants and bless her with her type of guys she met not long ago. My past experience, my ex got herself a new bf right after breaking up with me, the fragileness of 2 years relationship was totally replaced by a person who she just met for weeks. The grudges were there and it took time to make myself clear that i wasn't good enough for her and finally forgiven after 4 years. Im blessing her thou. People come and go, the worth one stays, anything happens for a reason and i believe she got herself in a better situation for the best reason. And some people should get a punch from me, and when i punch you, i have my reason. And "some people" have been quite ridiculous recently, endless drama and funny ending - i trembled.
I always remind myself to not greed, i always remind myself of "Dog and Bone story", you cant carry 2 bones at the same time, you have to let go one. In usual manner, maybe its because of the current social life and people i am mingling right now, maybe its you, who would keep the second bone and spend time with the first. Semantically, the nice guy believes in doing the right thing, being the second bone and wait for no return.
I was once a clubber and a guy who spent all my weekend and money in club, and time passed and i have reached to the highest level which is to eventually settle down, but i met the right person at the wrong time, this is the ultimate problem, the one you like likes another person, such a headache. The question is why and the answer can be as simple as you aren't her type that shes looking for. Yes people would just save time and energy because good guy isnt going to make it easy to just walk away, you have to hurt him with words because the good guy cares. You have to tell him you had a night stand with another guy, so the good guy will just kill himself and he will be gone for sure. Again the good guy cares, even though he knows it will be loads of bullshit, he will get his explanation and deal with the rest of his whatever-is-going-to-happen.
I have friend who had a nice guy who treated her very well too, but the girl prefer asshole. She thinks a douchebag is a challenge. Crap. But in fact, the asshole has a charm about him, you would say "theres something about him" because he socialized too well in the night club.
So trust me, you pushed the nice guy away, the nice guy would walk away. When he doesnt, you pushed harder. Each time he comes back, he comes back with a different idea, and that makes you look attracting and he cares about everything that you need and get for you, and that increase your value and thats the moment when you, the girl starts growing. He forced you to grow and you were too busy chasing them off. The nice guy offered endless journey with you and you pushed a "think-too-much" guy far far away and 10 years later, when you marry a douchebag, you complain your husband never think and plan for the future. Funny shit. He gave too much of everything you need that's when you start taking things for granted, you wanted conflict and drama in life and end up complaining theres no nice guy in the world, funny shit x2.
He was the guy you were supposed to be together with, the person who will make things happen for you for the best reason, wishing you to see before other does. Still you think he doesnt suit you, ok fine, hurt him, he will walk away, he called it a day, he said "FML". And the point is what you don't know is that theres someone else out there is waiting for this, she wont waste a minute, she saw how great she treated you and when you realize, its going to be too late.
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