Love is the best antidepressant but many of our ideas about “love” are wrong. The less love you have, the more depressed you are likely to feel. Love is as critical for your mind and body as oxygen. It's not negotiable. In other words, the more connected you are, the healthier you will be in both physically and emotionally. The less connected you are, the more you are at risk.
First and foremost, it is also true that the less love you have, the more depression you are likely to experience in your life. Love is probably the best antidepressant there is because one of the most common sources of depression is feeling unloved. Most depressed people don't love themselves and they do not feel loved by others. They are also very self-focused, making them less attractive to others and depriving them of opportunities to learn the skills of love.
Secondly, there is a mythology in our culture that love just happens. It happens when you are not in attention and you never realize it. As a result, someone who is truly depressed often sits around passively waiting for someone to love them but love doesn't work that way. In addition, to get and keep love, you have to go out and be active and learn a variety of specific skills.
Next, most of us get our ideas of love from popular culture. We come to believe that love is something that sweeps us off our feet but the pop-culture ideal of love consists of unrealistic images created for entertainment, which is one reason so many of us are set up to be depressed. Furthermore, it is part of our national vulnerability, like eating junk food, constantly stimulated by images of instant gratification. We think it is Love at first thought when it’s just merely a distraction or infatuation.
On the other hand, one consequence is that when we hit real love we’ll become upset and disappointed because there are many things that do not fit the cultural ideal. Some of us get demanding and controlling, wanting someone else to do what we think our ideal of romance should be, without realizing our ideal is misplaced. It is not only possible but necessary to change one’s approach to love to ward off depression.
Last but not least, love is a learned skill, not something that comes from hormones or emotion particularly. If you don't learn the skills of love you virtually guarantee that you will be depressed, not only because you will not be connected enough but because you will have many failure experiences. So, learn good communication skills. They are a means by which you develop trust and intensify connection. The more you can communicate the less depressed you will be because you will feel known and understood. Respectively, if you really love someone, you must be able to negotiate and compromise on him/her until you find a common ground that works on both.
On clarification, the range of love is wide and consist a lot of meaningful point but “depression” cannot take exemption when love being brought into discussion. For your information, “depression” being emphasized in this essay because in the world nowadays, depression took a lot of youngster’s bright look, and yes, most on negative perspective which made then unmotivated and unloved.
In conclusions, The “Power of Love” is the power of enjoy life. When you are born, you are crying and everyone around you is smiling. Live your life with full of love so that when you die, you are smiling and everyone around you is crying.
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